I've given up raging, its a wasted feeling for me. If I internalize it, I feel bad. If I start raging externally, I'm part of the problem. I focus on what I can do to help people connect and relate. maybe maturity finally kicking in at 70.
I've really embraced my ladylike rage in midlife. Alchemizing it on the daily. Love the tone you are striking with your platform... rage, disagreement, overcoming fear, connection, children, dialogue across the aisle... and mostly your invitation to men to speak up for the women in their lives. Glad I bought my sons your book! Rage on!
Today’s Economist interview by Zanny Minton Beddoes of Yuval Noel Harari presents a frightening picture of how mistrust between people, destroyed by social media controlled AI, must be reestablished to deny AI’s inevitable control of the human world. It’s a big argument, but one worth considering.
Jessica’s view that understanding and tolerance to enhance human relationships and build trust is entirely apt. Again, worth considering.
Couldn't agree more, Jessica. We all need to chill out because in my experience, 99.99% of the people I've met through my life have been good people, regardless their beliefs, flaws, education, or background. The moment we find ourselves in now obscures that because one person from the 0.01% group has been given the keys to a car that he is not only unqualified to drive, but that he is determined to drive off a cliff! But we as Americans - as good people - need to focus a lot more of our energy on extending eachother some grace.
I don’t know that “winning” an argument is as important as putting forth new information, and adding a different perspective. I’d rather be effective than “right”.
Basically summed up by "you can't control what other people say/do, you can only control your reaction to them". If Scott's excerpt is the highlight of the book, I just saved you $30 or whatever the book costs
Hey, TomD, guess what? What you read was the punch line, not the story. | I was struck by the extent of meaning that was in that excerpt; it was crafted to tell one part of the whole story- maybe the punch line; maybe not. In any case, the rest of the book must be amazing. Right now, I spend all my free time developing a series of Claude (Anthropic) AI Agents. When that's done, sign me up. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Hint: Block out an hour away from your smartphone; spend half of the time planting flowers or going for a walk in a forest; then read the excerpt (take your time) and spend the remaining time emailing the excerpt to your family and buddies. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - You are most certainly welcome, and I am glad you are back to the land of the living. - - -[This Reply reflects my takeaway from the excerpt. One is: When faced with an issue that you disagree with, don't smother it with contempt; instead, look for the root cause.]
“Get louder about your convictions, gentler with your people.” Fantastic! There’s echoes of ancient wisdom there. Rumi said: “Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.”
I've been discussing the insidious aspects of fear, both conscious and sub-conscious for over 12 years now. Ironically, their manifestations often appear as bravado in the Kabuki played by our national 'leaders' as well as the more obvious manifestations . . . as a biologist this is simply animal biology in play but with that unique twist the human species brings to our animus rising whenever that instinct strikes us and related to our individual programming. Interestingly enough fear as tied to the survival instinct has morphed into more and more people staying quiet, and, instead of acting to thwart the what is obviously wrong and an existential threat, position themselves to take personal, individual advantage of the situations creating fear, most often manifested in monetary/material gain (i.e.survival security) as a first order of business when the more natural, and largely male instinct, should be to confront and thwart the threat.
Separately but related this is why religion, which I want to include as spirituality / philosophy / ethics matter . . . we have purged these from education because they hold not obvious economic value, yet that value is now obvious as our national debt crosses the $40 Trillion mark where a significant amount of that debt went to the 1% of the 1% through government contracts, subsidies and the legalized corruption of deregulation of the financial sector and a mantra of maximizing shareholder profit at all cost, including the long term viability of companies that actually create and deliver value.....this is where the huge cost of white collar people in positions of influence is being paid for a lack of these traits that do not have any numerical metric with a dollar sign upon them......but, I digress.....the point is this spirituality, philosophy, ethics gives us faith (not belief but faith) to overcome falling into the insidious Dante's Inferno of Fear..... we do not have the numbers in front of us, we acknowledge we do not know all the risks and variables and our innate animal inside us prioritizes survival ......and we choose to move forward with the 'right' actions and thoughts anyway.
I agree about ethics/spirituality/philosophy but not so much about religion. Religions have become so mangled and distorted that they have become anything but ethical. I also agree about where the debt was spent. I wonder if there is a way to get some back?
Your perspective holds validity, however, might I suggest that religions are not the issue. They serve a purpose as a vehicle for spirituality, ethics, philosophy and morality for disseminating these principals to people, however, like other necessary institutions, "The Human Condition" often has religion infiltrated by those who end up using it as a vehicle for consolidating power and wealth thus corrupting the institution that was meant for our betterment.
Yes, I agree, religions can be this when interpreted for the greater good. Sadly, that so often is not the case. Even as a child, growing up in a small, small town (one of those little places where everyone knows each other and if you don't know what you are doing, everyone else does) I noted there were bottoms parked in pews that did not belong to nice people. So, there are a variety of motives for participating in religions. Also, unfortunately, they are open to misinterpretation and opinion as well as immoral infiltration as you point out. I don't think decency, kindness and generosity need a weekly reminder and I would like to see more research about what happens to make some people so incredibly amoral/immoral.
I share your thoughts. But your sidebar should not be buried in a 2nd-level Reply. It deserves to be displayed in its full glory as a ReStack, or more.
I came away from the excerpt with a new determination to hold on to the people who make want to rage. I’ve forgotten humanity in service of “saving democracy”. Most of these acquaintances are fine people. I am committing to believing they are more than the sum total of their ideologies, rather they are good folks who see the world in a way I can’t. They have as much right to their world view as I have to mine.
I "rage" about people like the author "raging" about fear. Give me a break. Being fearful and worrying does nothing to help the person. Addressing your concerns and taking action is the smart and healthy approach. Another waste-of-time email from Scott.
Sorry, friend, your words seem to contradict each other. I wonder whether you really read the whole excerpt, because I didn't see anything that suggests being fearful. You also seem to mirror the excerpt's intent. If I missed something, please spell it out; I would like to know exactly what I missed.
I rage all the time about PHONINESS which is most visible on our bodies-- 70% are WAISTED35-- visceral fat around the waistline that is 35 inches or more. And according to the Washington Post, 9 out of 10 of us have CKM. ALL the major health organization reported on CKM this past June. Still the Media hides. Still the media hates Joan Breibart for telling the truth. EAT Healthy & Exercise More is the wrong formula. This is what happens
For nearly 50 years, Oprah experienced exactly this kind of metabolic and behavioral whiplash. She dieted, lost weight, regained it, restricted again, exercised intensely, lost again and regained again. In 1988 she famously lost 67 pounds on a liquid diet—and eventually regained all of it plus more. Decades of trying harder did not solve the problem. A GLP-1 medication finally changed the hunger signal itself. it's only 80bites.com that works.
I've given up raging, its a wasted feeling for me. If I internalize it, I feel bad. If I start raging externally, I'm part of the problem. I focus on what I can do to help people connect and relate. maybe maturity finally kicking in at 70.
Well said. Thank you for sharing your insights.
I've really embraced my ladylike rage in midlife. Alchemizing it on the daily. Love the tone you are striking with your platform... rage, disagreement, overcoming fear, connection, children, dialogue across the aisle... and mostly your invitation to men to speak up for the women in their lives. Glad I bought my sons your book! Rage on!
Today’s Economist interview by Zanny Minton Beddoes of Yuval Noel Harari presents a frightening picture of how mistrust between people, destroyed by social media controlled AI, must be reestablished to deny AI’s inevitable control of the human world. It’s a big argument, but one worth considering.
Jessica’s view that understanding and tolerance to enhance human relationships and build trust is entirely apt. Again, worth considering.
Couldn't agree more, Jessica. We all need to chill out because in my experience, 99.99% of the people I've met through my life have been good people, regardless their beliefs, flaws, education, or background. The moment we find ourselves in now obscures that because one person from the 0.01% group has been given the keys to a car that he is not only unqualified to drive, but that he is determined to drive off a cliff! But we as Americans - as good people - need to focus a lot more of our energy on extending eachother some grace.
My mantra, which I sometimes follow, sometimes not: "CONTROL YOUR RAGE, USE YOUR ANGER"
I like Jessica. I think she acts in good faith, but I’ve rarely heard her actually win arguments.
I don’t know that “winning” an argument is as important as putting forth new information, and adding a different perspective. I’d rather be effective than “right”.
Well said. Thank you for sharing your insights.
Basically summed up by "you can't control what other people say/do, you can only control your reaction to them". If Scott's excerpt is the highlight of the book, I just saved you $30 or whatever the book costs
Hey, TomD, guess what? What you read was the punch line, not the story. | I was struck by the extent of meaning that was in that excerpt; it was crafted to tell one part of the whole story- maybe the punch line; maybe not. In any case, the rest of the book must be amazing. Right now, I spend all my free time developing a series of Claude (Anthropic) AI Agents. When that's done, sign me up. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Hint: Block out an hour away from your smartphone; spend half of the time planting flowers or going for a walk in a forest; then read the excerpt (take your time) and spend the remaining time emailing the excerpt to your family and buddies. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - You are most certainly welcome, and I am glad you are back to the land of the living. - - -[This Reply reflects my takeaway from the excerpt. One is: When faced with an issue that you disagree with, don't smother it with contempt; instead, look for the root cause.]
Certainly another possibility. When you read the book, let me know what you think. Maybe I'll take a walk instead! Have a great weekend
Truly excellent and advice I really needed to hear today (and probably every other day until I die to be honest).
“Get louder about your convictions, gentler with your people.” Fantastic! There’s echoes of ancient wisdom there. Rumi said: “Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.”
thanks! Great excerpt from your book. Sheila
I've been discussing the insidious aspects of fear, both conscious and sub-conscious for over 12 years now. Ironically, their manifestations often appear as bravado in the Kabuki played by our national 'leaders' as well as the more obvious manifestations . . . as a biologist this is simply animal biology in play but with that unique twist the human species brings to our animus rising whenever that instinct strikes us and related to our individual programming. Interestingly enough fear as tied to the survival instinct has morphed into more and more people staying quiet, and, instead of acting to thwart the what is obviously wrong and an existential threat, position themselves to take personal, individual advantage of the situations creating fear, most often manifested in monetary/material gain (i.e.survival security) as a first order of business when the more natural, and largely male instinct, should be to confront and thwart the threat.
Separately but related this is why religion, which I want to include as spirituality / philosophy / ethics matter . . . we have purged these from education because they hold not obvious economic value, yet that value is now obvious as our national debt crosses the $40 Trillion mark where a significant amount of that debt went to the 1% of the 1% through government contracts, subsidies and the legalized corruption of deregulation of the financial sector and a mantra of maximizing shareholder profit at all cost, including the long term viability of companies that actually create and deliver value.....this is where the huge cost of white collar people in positions of influence is being paid for a lack of these traits that do not have any numerical metric with a dollar sign upon them......but, I digress.....the point is this spirituality, philosophy, ethics gives us faith (not belief but faith) to overcome falling into the insidious Dante's Inferno of Fear..... we do not have the numbers in front of us, we acknowledge we do not know all the risks and variables and our innate animal inside us prioritizes survival ......and we choose to move forward with the 'right' actions and thoughts anyway.
I agree about ethics/spirituality/philosophy but not so much about religion. Religions have become so mangled and distorted that they have become anything but ethical. I also agree about where the debt was spent. I wonder if there is a way to get some back?
Your perspective holds validity, however, might I suggest that religions are not the issue. They serve a purpose as a vehicle for spirituality, ethics, philosophy and morality for disseminating these principals to people, however, like other necessary institutions, "The Human Condition" often has religion infiltrated by those who end up using it as a vehicle for consolidating power and wealth thus corrupting the institution that was meant for our betterment.
Yes, I agree, religions can be this when interpreted for the greater good. Sadly, that so often is not the case. Even as a child, growing up in a small, small town (one of those little places where everyone knows each other and if you don't know what you are doing, everyone else does) I noted there were bottoms parked in pews that did not belong to nice people. So, there are a variety of motives for participating in religions. Also, unfortunately, they are open to misinterpretation and opinion as well as immoral infiltration as you point out. I don't think decency, kindness and generosity need a weekly reminder and I would like to see more research about what happens to make some people so incredibly amoral/immoral.
I share your thoughts. But your sidebar should not be buried in a 2nd-level Reply. It deserves to be displayed in its full glory as a ReStack, or more.
I agree and considered this but felt that I needed to tie this to my initial thoughts and comments.
I came away from the excerpt with a new determination to hold on to the people who make want to rage. I’ve forgotten humanity in service of “saving democracy”. Most of these acquaintances are fine people. I am committing to believing they are more than the sum total of their ideologies, rather they are good folks who see the world in a way I can’t. They have as much right to their world view as I have to mine.
I "rage" about people like the author "raging" about fear. Give me a break. Being fearful and worrying does nothing to help the person. Addressing your concerns and taking action is the smart and healthy approach. Another waste-of-time email from Scott.
Sorry, friend, your words seem to contradict each other. I wonder whether you really read the whole excerpt, because I didn't see anything that suggests being fearful. You also seem to mirror the excerpt's intent. If I missed something, please spell it out; I would like to know exactly what I missed.
I rage all the time about PHONINESS which is most visible on our bodies-- 70% are WAISTED35-- visceral fat around the waistline that is 35 inches or more. And according to the Washington Post, 9 out of 10 of us have CKM. ALL the major health organization reported on CKM this past June. Still the Media hides. Still the media hates Joan Breibart for telling the truth. EAT Healthy & Exercise More is the wrong formula. This is what happens
For nearly 50 years, Oprah experienced exactly this kind of metabolic and behavioral whiplash. She dieted, lost weight, regained it, restricted again, exercised intensely, lost again and regained again. In 1988 she famously lost 67 pounds on a liquid diet—and eventually regained all of it plus more. Decades of trying harder did not solve the problem. A GLP-1 medication finally changed the hunger signal itself. it's only 80bites.com that works.
CKM?